On Grief

~ Death ~

Two things happen when your spouse dies.

No three - for you die too. The you you knew 

is forever gone. The ‘half of a whole' you has

evaporated leaving you in limbo. Half buried

half struggling to sort out what life remains

in mourning both lost love and lost identity

we wonder, who am i - now on my own?

Where do i fit in as me, no longer we?

So. First the death. Next the limbo. And finally

a sprouting bud left hidden in the soil of loss

striving to heal death’s damage, sparked by

some small familiar joy, emerges - gaining

strength, transforming old life-giving cells

to bring forth a vibrant, living blossom

A New You

~ Life ~

JoMae
1/31/19

Entering another year of being on my own, still settling into who I am in this vulnerable new normal, I do see hopeful patterns and a small spark of life. I share this to offer hope to those recently widowed and in recognition to those of us gradually emerging from death’s dark valley.